Comments on: “How Are You?” What to answer when you’re never “Fine, thanks”

By: Ellan

Ellan — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 19:07:46 +0000

I found this helpful as I have friends that have stated up front “I do not want to hear it!” After I truthfully answered them. I am more careful of “who” I “share” with and I’ll be as superficial to protect them as they are to me. They can not handle the truth sometimes. I can and have more energy for more positive experiences as a result!
Thanks for the suggestions. I love this whole website. At last their are others out there just like me, in many ways!

Ella

By: Matthew Smith

Matthew Smith — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 20:14:04 +0000

It’s often happened that I’ve been asked a general question about “how I am” etc., particularly when I’m depressed about something (sickness has rarely if ever come into it), and I give them a “fine” or “OK” type response and they press the issue with “you don’t look/sound fine”. People don’t realise that you might not want to talk about whatever’s not OK at that time and/or with them. Their responses make it harder to keep the tone of the conversation polite, which you might want to do if it’s (say) your aunt doing the asking.

By: yunyi2009

yunyi2009 — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 20:26:38 +0000

great! you said what i want to say.

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